Some Silly Leadership Mistakes to avoid – by Frank Ofili35 views
Anyone who has climbed to the pinnacle of his career would easily tell you that it is lonely at the top – very lonely – regardless of what others may think. The man at the top is lonely, yet all eyes are on him. Everything he does or says is subjected to intense scrutiny.
The leader is up there all by himself, yet he is not truly alone. Everyone is looking up to him. He is a source of joy or pain to many. His word is law; no one dares challenge him.
When you are in this kind of position it is very easy to get carried away and not have restraint both in words and action. It is also very tempting to use all sort of expletives and foul languages since no one is there to call you to order.
Often very few people realize being in a leadership position is when they need to be more careful what they do or say because everything they do or say is subjected to close scrutiny by those below them, those above them, their peers, and those outside the organization such as customers, clients, industry players, professional colleagues, the society and other interest groups. Their actions or words are often unconsciously subjected to some sort of psychological evaluation to determine whether they possess the requisite emotional intelligence suited for your position.
Like money, the power that comes with position can sometimes be dangerously sweet and intoxicating, thus, leading to certain erroneous actions that would classify you as a tyrant, or what is referred to in local parlance as “money miss road” or “power hungry”. So, if you are in leadership position in any capacity in your organization, it is necessary you have what John Ruskin calls the “leadership restraint” that goes with it.
Here are a few examples of what not to do as a leader:
1. Do not drop too many foul languages – e.g. fuck you! Screw you, nonsense, rubbish, bullshit etc.
2. Do not fire your employee over the phone. Whatever the misconduct, due process is the only option for canning an employee.
3. Do not slap or physically harass your employees or subordinates. There is a better more civilized way for anger management.
4. Do not party with your employees. Some may argue with this one, but I would say you are only asking for trouble if you party too frequently with them
5. Do not upstage your boss. It is always better to let your boss win, or go first. As Robert Greene wrote in his epic – The 48 Laws of Power – do not outshine the master
6. Do not do too many things at the same time. Focus on one task at a time
7. Do not fire an employee for being too hot or for being too ugly. But you can for a dress code violation, but not over the phone.
8. Do not lie about your education, or about your ethnicity. Or better still, do not lie at all. It is easier to remember things when you don’t make them up. The case of former speaker of Nigeria’s House of Representatives, Salisu Buhari is instructive
9. Do not steal your company’s money. Or “borrow” it, or “misplace” it, or whatever.
10. Do not date an employee under you. Yes many people do so these days, but the fact is doing so weakens your authority. Also do not ever, ever, have sex in the office under any circumstances